We specialise in formalising agreements reached by couples after separation in a legal way. Couples therefore don’t have to be friends or ‘amicable’ with one another to engage us. There is really only one requirement and that is simply to have reached an agreement.
I’d say that perhaps two thirds of the couples that I meet with face to face in the Canberra region for their complimentary 30 minute consultation, are not necessarily ‘amicable’, with the couple appearing tense with one another or displaying outwardly tense behaviours.
From those consultations, I walk away thinking that the couple is fortunate to have reached an agreement together. So much can go wrong when a couple find themselves unable to reach an agreement, for example, emotions can get in the way or the wrong sort of lawyer can become involved (like the one who tells your partner that ‘he/she should get more’ or suggests going to Court before attempting to meaningfully negotiate). Having had experience negotiating and representing clients at Court, it can be much easier for a separating couple to reach an agreement together between themselves from the outset where appropriate.
The point of this blog therefore is to really hone home that just because you and your partner aren’t necessarily ‘amicable’ or the best of friends or even friendly with one another doesn’t mean that you can’t reach an agreement together.
It is ‘normal’ to feel some sense of tension, stress and anxiety about your separation and therefore towards your partner. Separation can be an emotional, stressful and worrisome time. Once the separation has happened, the hardest part is generally reaching an agreement. Formalising the agreement(s), is the easy bit.
There are process options that you can utilise to negotiate with one another that do not involve going to Court. Seeing a collaboratively trained family lawyer to receive some legal advice tends to be a good start too. That lawyer will likely tell you about these process options, what might be considered an appropriate outcome for you according to the law and what your suggested next steps are to progress and finalise your separation. There are collaboratively trained family lawyers in each State and Territory across Australia.
If you’ve reached an agreement with your partner that you would like to formalise in a legal way, get in touch with us today by calling (02) 6100 3629 or emailing us here
If you haven’t yet reached an agreement with your partner and you’d like some legal advice, contact us on the above details for a consultation.